A couple of weeks ago Debbie started planning an international retreat to host for her clients.

She planned this with joy and excitement because it felt like the right next step to take in her business and she loves to travel.

Then, the other day, while we were looking for new glasses at the eye doctor’s, she headed straight for the section of glasses that were the cheapest.

I encouraged her to buy a pair she wanted and liked, regardless of the price.

Debbie was worried about the budget; I was focused on what she wanted.

Our budget is important, but a budget is a guide, not a fixed financial picture that doesn’t have room to change.

I knew we had the money in the account and if we didn’t, we would.

But I couldn’t help notice how with the trip she was planning, she radiated excitement and confidence. Debbie would stop at nothing to ensure the money she needed for that trip would be there.

Yet, with the glasses, the money already existed but she was reluctant to spend it.

We all have these things in our lives that we are willing to do anything for and others that we aren’t.

When it comes to us saying ‘no’ to something – an experience, a trip, a product, a service – it’s never about the money. It’s about how badly we want it and what we are willing and unwilling to do to have it.

At the end of the day, having what we want is on us.

We can spend a lot of time worrying over expenses, budgets, what’s already in our sales pipeline, and obsessing over where the money will come from.

But staring at spreadsheets and numbers and overthinking our budgets restrict us from an abundant mindset, seeing the opportunities, and taking effective action.

More importantly, constantly saying ‘no’ to the things we want ingrains the story that we can and should only have what we need.

I don’t know about you, but I’m committed to getting what I want, not just what I need.

I’m committed to having a life I enjoy and having a relationship with my money rather than feeling ruled by it.

What you choose to have is based on what you choose to do each day, what you choose to focus on, what you choose to say ‘yes’ to.

Here’s the 3-2-1 on having what you want.


  1. We will find more joy if we live the life we want to live instead of constantly reviewing our budget. This financial tool can be useful but it can also keep our mindsets restricted and opportunities limited.
  2. When we say ‘no’ to something we want because we don’t have the money for it at the moment or don’t want to spend what we do have, it’s never about the money. It’s about how badly we want it and what we are willing to do to afford that purchase or experience.
  3. We need to stop worrying about where the money is going to come from and focus on doing the work, being excited about what we’re doing, and creating connections. Money will follow.


  1. Make a list of the people, work, and experiences you’re excited about in your business. What’s one thing you can do to move your business forward that’s in alignment with that list? Do it. Today.
  2. What’s something you recently denied yourself because of “money.” Relook at that thing. Do you really not have the money for it or are you saying no to yourself because of old habits and beliefs? If it makes sense, say yes to that thing instead.


  1. When I really want something, what am I willing to do to get it?

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To your impact and legacy,